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  1. Not In the Mood for Love?

    November 22, 2011 niqcir691

    Nothing can bring two people who truly care about one another mentally and physically together more than lovemaking. Passion can grow in your marriage; all it takes is a little planning and imagination. Avoid the dwindling love lives of other married couples. Take action now.

    Honesty is the foundation to great sex. Both partners must be true to themselves and honest to their partners to get the most out of sex. Despite the passing of time and growth of culture, there is still an old adage that exists. It believes that women need love to get in the mood for sex, while men need sex to be able to get in love. Parts of this adage go on and provide some truths. Because women need “love” before sex – their needs are rooted in honesty a little more than that in men. Women need to know how they feel and be able to express when and how they want to make love by telling their husband.

    When it comes to choosing the right time for lovemaking with your husband, here are four “don’ts”:

    1. If you aren’t physically able to make love, don’t. By creating a sense that you must have sex, you will gradually begin to lose the want to have sex. Further more, if sex becomes a “duty” this will do nothing more than distract the positive feelings you have for your husband. Instead of acting when your inner feelings are against it, simply and honestly explain to your husband that you cannot. Explain that you appreciate his urges and desires and pick a targeted time and place to make love in the future.

    2. Avoid criticizing your husband if he decides to try something new that doesn’t quite work so well for you. Variety is important to men, and it can be a very vulnerable thing for a man to even approach. So avoid slashing his confidence with criticism.

    3. If your mind is somewhere else don’t have sex with your husband. Choose a better place and time. Whether it was just a bad day at the office, problems with the kids, friends, or money – just give it time. Your honesty will be much appreciated and won’t deter your will to make love when your mind is clear.

    4. Never use resentment as a weapon to avoid having sex with your husband. Look back at number three. If you go too far and use your daily problems against your husband it will instantly put a hard lock to pick on your love life. Instead focus on communication and honesty. Find ways to talk about not having sex, and the times to have sex will begin to stack up.


  2. Women and Motorcycles? You Bet!

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    To really understand the women and her ride, one needs to go back in history to explore the courageous women who defied the norm and road their horses in the freedom of the wind. Who could forget Joan of Arc or Annie Oakley. Two completely different women who followed their own council and fought for their right to ride in a man’s world. Or the women warlords who fought while on horseback and brandished their swords with the best of them. (and yes, women really did that) What man could resist such a women?

    Women’s love affair with the motorcycle began with the bicycle back in the 1800′s. They became hugely popular with women. Susan B. Anthony once said, “A bicycle has done more for the emancipation of women more than any other thing in this world”.

    When the motorized bicycle was developed in the early 1900′s, it opened up a whole new realm of adventure for the high-spirited woman of the day. Many women took to the open road not on horseback, but on the iron horse. Adventurous women enjoyed many long distance rides. Some were skilled enough to do stunt riding. No mean feat, especially on the earlier bikes.

    The ride for men and women are uniquely different. A man on his ride is master of the iron muscle and his testosterone kicks in while he uses his arms and upper body to control the beast. He is lord and master of his ride. Women take a more subtle approach. They use their lower body and their curves to hug the open road. It’s a sensual bond between the bike and the woman. She is also master of the ride but she controls it with more passion and finesse.

    There is something about seeing a woman on a motorcycle that makes you take notice. You can see the iron muscle being controlled with femininity. It’s the combination of power and aesthetics that make it an irresistible combination.

    There is nothing like the open road for both men and women. To experience the freedom and the wind, the sites you see and people you meet along the way that fuel the spirit and feed the soul. This experience is something no one can take from you.

    Enjoy!


  3. Online Dating Relationships And How To Make Them Into Real Connections!

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    In a sense the term “online dating relationships” is misleading. You’re not really having an online dating relationship, at least not entirely. Eventually you’re going to want to meet, talk, perhaps touch-publicly first of course, if possible VERY publicly. But, you’re going to want to get out into the big scary world, and leave the internet’s cocoon of emails and IMs. If you observe a few simple rules, you will know beforehand if the man or woman you’re with is worth the effort.

    The first rule is a simple one: HONESTY TRUMPS EVERYTHING ELSE on an online dating site. Men, you know you don’t look like Brad Pitt, and she knows you don’t look like Brad Pitt, so don’t put his picture on your profile, even as a joke. Woman can sense you’re insecure at little jokes like that, and if you’re not like you described in the profile, she’s out the door. You’re back to square one, just a date online, dating a phantom.

    The same applies to women: your prospective internet partner will appreciate your own self more than anything else you can share in your profile. But, and here’s rule number two: DON’T BE TOO HONEST AT FIRST. Don’t reveal your drinking history, your near-felony arrest, and your couch potato habits. He’ll know soon enough about all that once you get into the real world. And for God’s sake, don’t talk about previous relationships-that one’s slow poison for men OR women.

    Next, ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE, in the form of telling about solid things about you- why you love your work (you do, don’t you?), your goals (we all love a potential mate with goals), your ideal mate (if he or she likes you, they’ll try to measure up). Tell why you’re looking into online dating relationships. And please LISTEN CAREFULLY and REMEMBER THE POSITIVES. Both sexes love an opposite number who listens.

    Well, now you’re actually doing some online dating-in other words, you’re connecting to the online dating site where you’re texting online, IMing online and emailing online. And as wonderful as the flow of words might be, you may want to actually have a date instead of a date online, dating. So you take the plunge and decide on a date outside the Internet world.

    Now, here’s a rule one both men and women need-KEEP THE FIRST DATE PUBLIC. Head for the crowded Peet’s Tea instead of the deserted (and expensive) P.F. Chang’s down the way. Your new friend will appreciate the safety of being in a crowd, and the two of you can keep it brief, pleasant and maybe mildly flirtatious. Do NOT ask to meet in public too early-you’ll look like an eager puppy, and nobody dates puppies for long.

    Notice how you’ve come full circle, the place where online dating was supposed to take you. The last rule is: if you feel you might be getting close, TELL YOUR PROSPECTIVE MATE EVERYTHING THAT’S IMPORTANT. This is the time to mention the divorce, the depression you’ve suffered and, oh, yes, the two kids you’re raising as a single father or mother. If he or she doesn’t run, you may have found a winner. Regardless of that, your friend needs to know that stuff before committing to something.


  4. Marriage Is a Long Conversation!

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    Leading German thinker and philosopher of the last century Nietchze is the source to my knowledge of this wise observation that “marriage is a long conversation”. While Nietchze generally has a bad reputation for his “superman theories” and his “God is dead” maxim – this seems his BEST philosophic observation about that grand ole human institution – MARRIAGE.

    Over the past seven years at our Bi Men Network – so many of our men have repeatedly conceded that they STILL HAVE SOME GREAT CONVERSATIONS with their wives. When push comes to shove many men acknowledge that their wives are in fact their best friends. While women seem to make “best friends” far more easily than most adult men – finding a “best friend” is all too often a major problem for many grown men.

    As we all now KNOW – romance fades and sex fades. Youth fades. Outer beauty fades. Energy fades. Growing old is not for sissies as Bette Davis once shrewdly noted!

    Do you still converse with your wife? or are you like so many older couples just stuck at the dining table in SILENCE or with the TV or radio on or both reading your sections of the newspaper? How many couples do we see eating out in public in COMPLETE SILENCE. And NOT the comfortable silence of two old friends who are at peace with such quiet.

    Well if you are STILL ENJOYING good conversation with your spouse – SHE IS A KEEPER – and most definitely your best friend as well – or one of your top three best friends. It has been said that after 30 we should have only THREE GOOD FRIENDS. Running in packs is for nuns and for youth.

    IF you are still enjoying GOOD TALKS – GOOD CONVERSATIONS – with your mate you are indeed very very lucky.

    I often surmise that one reason MEN really enjoy GOLF as the grow older is that it is a good cover for FINALLY conversing – really solid TALK – with other men as they ride or walk across so many holes of golf! WHILE walking or riding a golf cart together you can talk without looking into one another’s eyes. ALSO a good reason why bar stools with liquid chat lubricants are a conversational plus. Not having to look directly into another’s eyes! AND those amazing CONVERSATIONS on planes and trains with strangers we never see again. EYES not in direct contact with our chat partner! IF you ever find you need to have a heart to heart talk with your spouse and are not good at direct eye contact consider a long, private “Sunday” drive in the country where you can quietly, intimately communicate with one another.

    SO – if you have had a HISTORY of GOOD CONVERSATIONS with your spouse – have at it again. OFTEN – it is just good to take that nice long Sunday drive for the heck of it – even take a picnic along formore fun. BUT even just the spontaneous SUNDAY DRIVE is good. You can both relax and chat with your FOUR EYES on the road ahead and just nicely CONVERSE with your mate! Give it a try – after all – you owe that much to your best friend – right? OK!

    Big Hugs & Best Wishes,

    Stewart (Mac) McCloud

    Founder & President

    Bi-MEN NETWORK – http://www.bimen.org

    Now over 250,000 guys with us today


  5. Eternity in One Single Moment

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    But what minutes! Count them by sensation, and not by calendars, and each moment is a day.

    ~Benjamin Disraeli.

    Not good news for the depressed. But it is great news for the person wanting to extract the last pinprick from life. The fact is the weary know this truth more than most – for their moments drag ineluctably. Each hour hangs eternally on the wall-3,600 long seconds every one. There is just as powerful a positive:

    The Positive Power of a Million Different ‘Eternities’

    Though God’s placed us into the quantum realm of time there is before us great evidence of the infinity of eternity. This is known never more practically than via the vastness in the range of human and situational response variables.

    Hang with me.

    In other words, the eternal DNA in a single moment means the immediate future cannot be predicted. There are too many possibilities.

    Any divisible second sees us able to choose thousands of ways to act or react.

    Time is not the constraint. Our imaginations, and things like physics, are the only limit. Time only dictates the span – how long we have.

    How is it that we can waste inordinate chunks of time and still have plenty left to do what we need to do? For one person this doesn’t apply to there are ten it does. (And still, these things are robbed from the few – only to confound us.) There are many second chances of practical grace available for the slow learner in us; we all tend to be a bit slow to learn life lessons.

    A person can decide to about-face their lives any moment they choose. That’s power you can’t buy. Actually following through with the decision is where life gets tough.

    Magnifying Each Minute

    What is exhausting is equally exhilarating. Either perspective is viewable.

    There’s no sense in being swept away in exhaustion; it’s best to find enough restful instants and come at life as fresh as can be. Those enlivened flashes of eternity are laid captive by God-blessed choice.

    Each minute can then be perfect – it comes down to mere perception. What use is there in seeing anything reduced to waste? It’s better to see the purpose in even the darkest second. There’s no point to thought otherwise. Why regret if it’s not taking us somewhere positive; to a learned objective?

    For every experience known to life there is an accounting. This is an echo in eternity. It can be seen as ‘judgment’ if we want a negative view. Turning it around, everything’s meaningful. Nothing is wasted. Life is lived live. There’s nothing pretentious.

    As reflective effort is added to life there are myriads of different attributions for one single action. That alone is a diverse mystery.

    This life is thick with meaning and much of it is totally beyond us. And that’s okay.

    The minutes are magnified whether we like it or not, and if we can just see that, we can gain so much more for life.

    As far as understanding’s concerned, this is not even the start of it.

    But one thing remains: the world is yours, my friend!

    Copyright (c) 2011 S. J. Wickham.


  6. The Essence of Wan Taijiquan

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    Taijiquan is one of the best of all Chinese Arts and Culture, being more than 4,000 years old.

    The great Chinese sages, Lao Zi and Confucius, talked about Taijiquan as the Dao Of Heaven. Heaven has created Man as a part of nature. Taijiquan serves to remind Man of this, and that Man must blend in and harmonize with nature’s forces.

    In Man’s efforts to dominate and conquer nature, Man destroys Himself. When Man is aware of, and blends with the cosmic forces and the wonders of nature, His spirit is nourished; His mind is at ease and His body becomes fit and healthy.

    It is at this point of balance that Man is not disturbed or distracted by anything. He then becomes capable of superior actions. Physical strength is limited, compared to the spirit of Man.

    Wan Taijiquan seeks the awakening of the spiritual spark (divinity) in YOU. Ask yourself these questions:

    Do YOU feel calm and at peace?

    Do YOU feel the sudden spark, the unseen hand, the power that directs YOU?

    Do YOU feel younger, feel free, feel wiser, not bounded by the material world and propaganda?

    When YOU are non-judgmental, forgiving, able to take insults and criticism, then YOU have inner peace.

    Master Wan said: “With spiritual awareness of what YOU are born of, live life to the fullest and blend with nature, blend with the universe! YOU will feel the calm and peace and the power that directs YOU.”

    This is the essence of Wan Taijiquan.

    In the words of the late Taijiquan Master Wan Kean Chew, he always taught us that “Nothing in the world is as soft and yielding as water. Yet for dissolving the hard and inflexible, nothing can surpass it.”

    Master recalled on his numerous encounters in the International Pugilistic Invitational Competitions in South East Asia: “I attacked vigorously leading my opponent into emptiness, and applied intrinsic ‘nei-gong’ (where contestants had to withstand blows through breath and body control) explosive power to the opponent’s body and injured him internally. This proved that Taijiquan is flexible, blending the two opposites (active and passive forces) into balance and harmony.”

    The application of one’s ‘intrinsic energy force’ is based on the notion of “whole body with the mind” reaffirmed the Late Master’s belief that “the mind can move mountains.”

    The essence of Wan Taijiquan is to ‘merge’ with your opponent, rather than moving in ‘circular’ fashion in order to lead your opponent away. In the words of Master Wan Kean Chew, “Become ONE with your opponent. Surrender yourself to your opponent. Totality in every movement is guided by the waist. The waist leads…DO NOT resist with the hands.”


  7. Poetry in Contemporary Society

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    In this ever-changing 21st century, with all its rapid technological advances, we tend to take in information in short blasts. We read emails and text messages quickly, surf the web, often in haste, flitting from page to page via links. We also tend to read fewer newspapers, magazines and longer articles of substance.

    We’re a society of channel surfers, with hundreds upon hundreds of diverse specialty channels beamed into our living rooms via cable and satellite. We watch a little of this, a little of that, all the while having our thought processes interrupted by often inane commercials designed to convince us to buy something we may or may not need.

    When it comes to outright reading and critical thinking for any extended period of time, we seem to be moving away from that more and more as well. When’s the last time you really sat down to enjoy a well-written novel of literary substance?

    Have you recently taken the time to read a quality book of short stories from an insightful writer? In addition, when is the last time you read a book of poetry, whether a classic anthology or a more modern tome by a contemporary poet or a compilation of poets?

    Consider poetry – it is concise writing meant to enlighten, entertain, and provoke deep thought. Poetry is meant to be read – then reread, then reread again. When done well, a poem can resonate for years with a person, something they turn to again and again for comfort, pleasure, knowledge, and inspiration.

    It was eminent poet Robert Frost (1874-1963) who said, “A poem begins in delight and ends in wisdom.” The beauty of the words and the order of the words lead to discovery, which makes the reading of poetry truly a worthwhile endeavour.

    Here are five reasons why poetry matters:

    We Strengthen Our Reading, Speaking, and Writing Skills

    First off, reading good poetry rubs off on us, usually without us even realizing it. Reading it causes us to absorb the rhythms, cadences, and nuances of words, phrases, and sentences. The more we read quality poetry the more we develop an elegant way with words, along with a storehouse of words.

    This manifests itself in the quality of our own reading, speaking, and writing. The more we read fine poetry, the more adept we become with using language.

    We Learn to See Life through the Eyes of Others

    Sometimes it’s nice to get another perspective on a subject. Reading well-ordered words by a poet lets us into their world. We learn to consider other viewpoints, opinions and arguments, all the while getting these in the form of stylish writings. It’s a way to experience different trains of thought, while enjoying the creative work on its own merit at the same time.

    We Gain an Appreciation of Language and How it Works

    Edgar Allan Poe (1809-1849) said, “Poetry is the rhythmical creation of beauty in words.” A poem, of course, reads different than an article, a story, or a newspaper piece. While those kinds of writings can flow and have a grace and beauty of their own, according to their structure, a poem is different. Samuel Taylor Coleridge said, “Poetry: the best words in the best order.” A poem is truly that – a concise and precise way of presenting intellectual and heartfelt thought in its essence.

    We Learn to Take Time

    Poetry, like all good literary writing demands our attention. It demands we sit down and invest time in the act of reading, and then in the act of meditating on and pondering what we have just read. Again, it demands rereading as well, so we are certain to glean the intended meaning of the poem more fully.

    We do quality writing no justice when we treat it like the “fast food” type of information we’re bombarded with each day. That’s why poetry should be read in a quiet room with no distractions, in book form, words on paper that we can touch and feel as we read.

    We Awaken the Creativity within Ourselves

    Reading a poem can often inspire one to try his or her hand at writing one themselves. This starts the creative process rolling where the individual begins to put his or her thoughts and feelings into words, organized logically. This creativity spurs critical thinking and helps us understand ourselves and the world around us better as we explore a topic in-depth.

    A poem can also inspire one towards other creative tasks. A person may not write a poem, but the poem they read may inspire them to indulge in a craft, painting, to pick up a musical instrument, sculpt, or pursue photography or some other creative activity. Appreciating creative poetry can spur other fine creative activities.

    Make the reading of poetry a part of your life. It is a soothing respite from our often chaotic and hurried lifestyles. Set aside a time each week in a quiet room – just you and that book of verse, formal or free, and indulge. You will find you unwind gracefully as the words, rhymes, and meter, rhythm, and flow of phrases combine to tell a story or highlight an aspect of life. Poetry makes us slow down and think, and that can only contribute to our growth as reasoning individuals.


  8. Re-Discovered: The Lost Art of Learning to Play Music

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    This Ancient Style of Learning Helps Music Students

    Learn advanced pieces fast…

    Master difficult techniques quickly…

    Create music that is all their own…

    What’s more, students enjoy playing, they love to practice, and their parents save a small fortune on music lessons…

    Imagine sitting in a recital hall. There’s a huge grand piano on stage. A buzz fills the room as everyone anticipates the performance about to begin. The pianist walks on stage, and takes a seat on the leather padded bench.

    Once the performer’s fingers begin to dance gracefully over the keys, a hush falls over the audience. The rich sound from the piano instantly grabbed everyone’s attention. It’s obvious she is relaxed and confident. Notes sparkle in the upper end of the keyboard. The bass delivers a rich sonority. This performer clearly has command of this instrument.

    Suddenly, the sound drops as the pianist applies a different touch to the keys to make this concert grand display its capabilities. And the soft, velvet sound woos the audience with a rippling accompaniment that never overshadows the song-like melody….

    This may sound like the performance of an experienced concert pianist. But it wasn’t. This was the artistry of Michelle, my nine-year-old student who was giving her very first piano recital.

    Now you may think that Michelle had to be a prodigy. Of course, her parents think so. Michelle, however, was very much like many of my other students. All of them learn to play the piano very quickly and at a very high level. That’s because, many years ago, I discovered a secret. That secret radically changed the way I taught piano.

    For years, I taught piano like everyone else. My students would come in once a week for 30 minutes. We would go over their homework, work on scales, teach them something new, and send them home with new homework. It was like clockwork.

    Unfortunately, clock work isn’t very exciting. It broke my heart when some of my best and brightest students would quit playing because they weren’t enjoying it anymore. Their parents were hounding them every day to practice. But it just wasn’t any fun.

    So I decided to do some research and see if I could figure out a better way to teach. I’m a history buff, so I studied how some of our greatest piano players learned to play.

    That’s when I made an incredible discovery…

    You’ve undoubtedly heard of child prodigies, such as Mozart, who could read, write, and play astounding music at a very young age. It wasn’t that these children were just gifted; they were definitely that.

    I soon realized that while Mozart was at the top of his class, it wasn’t unusual for many of his contemporaries to excel in their musical abilities as well. In fact, we would consider many of them to be prodigies in today’s world. Mozart simply overshadowed them in history.

    My mind began to spin. How could it be that so many children in that era learned to play music at such a high level? Is it possible we could see this same phenomenon today if we used the same teaching methods they used back then?

    Naturally, I had to find the answer. And I did!

    I discovered the “secret” to the child prodigies was to be found in my wife’s phonics classes. She taught children and adults the “lost art” of reading by having the students read and write language as they learned to speak.

    I put that into practice with outstanding results for my students.


  9. Understanding Tarot Reading Cards With a Psychic Online Chat

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    Are you lost among the wide variety of fortune tellers on the internet? It seems as if every website you go to is offering some psychic’s telephone number, numerology reading, free readings on love, or free on line tarot reading. following a while it can make your head spin. When you’re looking for the real deal, it’s tough to figure out where to start, who to belief, and even just what is a psychic reading. If you are confused, and a bit skeptical – don’t feel alone, but don’t give up.

    Tarot may be just what you are looking for. You can telephone a psychic, but never really know in which his or her insights are coming from. perhaps you are actually talking to a gifted medium; then yet again probably you are speaking to a complete fraud. Sadly, there is no way of telling if your reading is the consequence of one person’s visions or impressions – you can’t double examine their interpretation or accuracy. The best place to start is with tarot reading cards. No, you don’t have to read them yourself.

    There are many tarot readings for free on the internet. The advantage here is you can keep monitor of your tarot cards spreads, and further analysis the meaning of each card. You can get second opinions at other sites offering tarot cards reading on-line. With the growing popularity of every factor in newage tarot is hardly surprising that it is starting to be more available, not only readings but data as well. Even this reasonably simple seeming divination method can be really complicated at first. Don’t feel the need to understand every issue at once. Start with the tarot reading cards themselves.

    The most popular tarot cards deck is the Rider Waite deck, however there are many distinct tarot decks used. Often they have the same names and meanings to the cards, just diverse pictures. Even so, some decks vary so if you are looking for further info about a precise tarot cards on the internet reading, be sure all internet websites you read are talking about the same deck. The last, and maybe most important thing to realize is the wide variety of free tarot spreads. Most website offering tarot card readings on the internet free will have a variety of spreads for you to choose from. Some, such as the Celtic Cross, or the Tree of Life are rather general. Some web sites offer more specific alternatives. If you choose an option such as free tarot reading for love, make sure the website gives you the name of the spread, or at least the meaning of the position for each tarot reading card in the layout. This way you can do further study if you wish and gain deeper insight into what the cards are telling you. A king of Pentacles may represent a wealthy dark haired person, usually a man. Even so, your psychic online chat can mean something distinct to you depending on if it is shown in the past, future, or a warning!


  10. Tips on How to Get Married Men for Men

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    Today relationships are no longer limited to the ones between a man and a woman making it easier to find married men for men. These days’ relationships between a man and man or a woman and a woman are not so uncommon any more. Same sex relationships are no longer a taboo and in fact there are several popular celebrities who have come out openly declaring themselves as gays. Same sex relationship is also legalized in several countries allowing them to get married and live as any other couple would live. With abundant of options available today, it is not uncommon to even find men seeking married men due to the stability that they offer and the no strings relationships that men can have with these married men. Give below are some tips on how to get married men for men.

    Play the pickup game:

    To find the right married man you will have to visit places frequented by gay men. Going to a regular pub or club will not help. Talk to your friends and other gay men and find out some of the best places where gay men frequent for some fun, such as upcoming parties in your neighborhood, clubs and other activities where you will be able to meet several gay men and interact with them. Once you are at these places, you will have to learn to approach a man without any hesitations and strike up a conversation. If you miss out on your chance to strike up on a conversation with the men that you like, you would probably lose your chance of finding a married man and eventually charm him.

    Practice your approaches:

    It is very important that you practice the approaches that you want to use when you finally meet the married man that you are interested in. Remember you will have to be discreet as the guy is probably not looking to upset his marriage and is probably just looking to have some fun outside his marriage. If you are not great at starting conversations, make sure you go through your conversation starter lines. You can find several tips and videos and information on the internet and choose from those lines. Do remember to use your common sense when in a situation and not to pose an irrelevant question just because that is the one that you have practiced. Refrain from using phony and over the top conversations starters. They seem good in books and movies, but not in real life.

    Build the rapport:

    Once you have the conversation started and the married man interested and hooked on to your conversation, make sure that you do not start talking aimlessly. Try to be funny while talking to the person and talk about good things about yourself. Talk about the time you had a vacation on the beach, the time you went camping, the parties that you have attended and other such positive experiences. Do not talk about topics that can make him uncomfortable. Keep your eyes open to the cues that his body might be sending out. Once you have built the rapport with him, if the chemistry is right, you can then take your next step.